A slightly more mature lady has friends—but she sure as shit doesn’t need their permission to live her life.
Hard as it may be to imagine a world before Facebook, the fact is, there was one—and I, along with many of my lady cohorts, lived in it. I don’t need to be omnipresent, liking everything he says or does, and I don’t have to monitor what I say, worrying it’ll be taken a certain way.
“As a dude, I’m told that I’m supposed to date girls my own age and take care of them, pay for dinner, and so on.
But for that period of time, the roles were reversed. And it felt great—who doesn’t want to be taken care of?
So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me tell you, you’re missing out. And by that I mean: her own career, her own friends, her own apartment, her own money.
A 30-year-old man from Brooklyn told me these factors are what makes older women a turn on. If she hasn’t tried it herself, she’s likely considered it.
And, unlike the 23-year-old who gets tanked and throws shade at your ex, she’s got class. I once went out with a young man from Queens who only dated older women because younger ladies, he found, couldn’t do a thing without checking in with 15 of their friends.
American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. SOURCE: Why Women Lose the Dating Game I see a poetic yet depressing symmetry in this: the women who rejected the introverted, budding alpha in their 20s now seek them in their 30s—but can’t have them because they’re dating younger, more attractive versions of themselves. Courtship really is a harsh petri dish of evolutionary psychology.
Should you automatically go dutch or expect her to pay? In fact, you want to impress someone, treat a lady with some bank to a nice meal, because she appreciates exactly how much it costs. So when you take her out with your friends or coworkers, be it to a wedding or work event, you don’t have to worry she’ll perish without your constant attention. Since she’s got a little life on her (and maybe even a marriage in her past), she may not have the rigid checklist that a younger girl has.
She’s been to enough of these things on her own to manage just fine while you’re talking to someone else. Most of the single women I know over 35 just want a good man, period.
You might feel like Joan Jett when he picks you up in his Seville outside the high school in front of all your friends, but he is being mercilessly mocked by all of the women in his life for dating a 14-year-old.2.
It's not super-sweet and romantic of him when he buys you beer and/or gets you a fake.