It's so sweet to watch him play with his little wooden people and make up these elaborate stories about what they're doing.Unfortunately when other boys have been over to play they criticize his toys and tease him for playing with "girls toys" so he brings out his Lego's and hos toy cars but I can see that he's disappointed that other boys won't play with his tree house or his My Little Pony toys.And I know this isn't only something I've experienced. It is a final grasp at the remnants of the commitment that they worked so hard for.I am sure some guys try it with girls that dump them too, but in general I think women struggle with cutting ties more than men.This may lead to the brother trying to save face with If You Ever Do Anything to Hurt Her... It's Truth in Television, as most any guy with a sister can tell you.While the title says "sister," variations of it also include mothers and other female relatives (such as cousins), and for girls this would most likely be "My is Off-Limits." This doesn't include daughters, because Overprotective Dad already covers that. This may also be a symptom of a character having a Big Brother Instinct. Also, this trope is almost indispensable for any Brother Sister Incest works, where it builds the initial Incest Subtext in story.Women never get jealous of one another - you and she will probably be close friends someday. So if a guy dumps you and says "let's just be friends," or suggests that you stay in touch, recognize that what he really means is one of the three numbered statements above, or some combination of the three.If, after being dumped, you find yourself tempted to convince your ex to be "just friends" or to "stay in touch" (because he still "means a lot to you"), acknowledge the fact that you really just want to hold on to some fraction of what once was, even if it is nothing like a real relationship and will actually hurt you in the long run. ------------------------------------- If you liked this post, you'll definitely like my book, Beyond the Breakup, which explains everything you need to know about dealing with you ex: what he's thinking, what is motivating him to stay friends with you, how to maximize your chances of getting him back, and how to focus on your future if that doesn't happen.
I've always encouraged him to be himself, to embrace his natural demeanor and personality, I've never tried to make him into more of a boy and when he's asked for toys like Groovy Girl dolls and My Little Pony horses I've bought them for him without question because I really don't see anything wrong with a boy playing with these kinds of toys.
Trying to be "friends" is a recently-dumped female's way of saying "I am not ready to let go." However, in some occasions, the male ending the relationship will suggest it.
If this happens to you, know that this is a male's way of saying one (or all) of a few different things: Let's have a completely platonic relationship in which we ignore the feelings we had for one another, and even the ones we still have.
The severed emotional ties between you will prevent you from relating to each other in platonic ways for a long time to come - perhaps forever.
This is something that we all know instinctively, whether or not we admit it to ourselves in the face of a failed relationship.